Parenting Miley Cyrus

Miley Cyrus has been in the news recently because of her sexually provocative show at the MTV music awards, and her riding a wrecking ball without clothes on. She has been in the media regularly since she was 14 years old, but her Hannah Montana image has been replaced by our cultures disgusting sexuality. I wrote previously that Miley Cyrus and others display amplified characteristics of our culture, but they also show the well meaning failure of parents.

Billy Ray Cyrus said in an interview in 2007 with Glenn Beck that he does not discipline his daughter (he leaves that to his wife), he just wants to be her best friend. Unfortunately, he did not see that as a problem then, and is apparently not too concerned about the results now.

Thankfully there are other parents who are concerned about their kids but look like they will be making the same mistakes. In a revealing article on the CBC on how parents should deal with Miley Cyrus, Janet Davison, demonstrates societies failed logic when it comes to parenting.

The overall message of the article is good. Parents need to teach their kids how to think critically about the information they are consuming, but it does not go far enough. Kids like adults need boundaries. We make drugs illegal so that adults don't ruin their lives. We put gates in front of stairs so that toddlers don't fall down them. Typically there are less rules for adults then for kids because it is expected that kids do not have enough experience to understand the implications of their actions.
“Because there’s so much out there and it’s so readily accessible … kids need to be really savvy consumers of online material and they need to know how to determine: ‘That’s inappropriate, turn it off.’ ”
It should not be left up to the kids to determine what they should consume, since they are not yet ready to make those kinds of decisions. They don't realize the psychological impact of violence and sex and how it will impact future relationships. Their minds are not fully developed yet. "The parts of the brain responsible for more "top-down" control, controlling impulses, and planning ahead—the hallmarks of adult behaviour—are among the last to mature."
Johnson doesn’t suggest parents lecture their kids. Instead, ask questions or seek their opinions on what they are watching.
Lecturing is required if kids don't have the capacity to understand. It is called teaching your kids. Kids also need to trust adults. They need to understand that there are certain things that they don't comprehend, but that their parents are trying to do what is best for them for the future. Parents should have more wisdom then their kids, but it seems like parents are now seeking wisdom from their kids.

If you don't discipline your kids and provide boundaries so that they can flourish, you will be left watching them self-destruct and be singing,
But don't tell my heart, my achy breaky heart
I just don't think it'd understand
And if you tell my heart, my achy breaky heart
He might blow up and kill this man

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